ANDY YE

I’ve been wearing 5 pound doc marten platform shoes for ~2 years now. At the gym today, me and my friend did calf raises. He has been working out for years longer than me, and is extremely buff. Usually I do ~3/5 of his weights, but for calf raises, I did the same amount.

It’s the doc martens.

Let’s say you’re a guy, and you’re jacking off. Every day, you pull out your wanker stick and bonk it until you explode. Say that every day for a month, you wring your sausage to the same genre of porn. It’s getting stale. So you look for something else; novelty attracts you. So you choose weirder shit. Then guess what? You slap your schmeat to the weirder shit. And the loop goes on, until you’re gooning for 3 hours straight to my little pony.

What went wrong? You took the compound interest train the wrong way. This is really scary to think about especially when you consider the whole hentai genre, and how that is not actually real human people. If you go down that railway, you’re gonna lose a LOT of sexual attraction to real human people. Porn can film some weird shit, but people really can draw whatever they want. Like really, whatever they want (have you seen the shit they draw??). This is what happens if we don’t have guide rails.

Say you live a normal life aside from your my little pony fantasies. A girl finds you attractive, you feel the same, and things go well, and suddenly your in bed with her. But you can’t get a hard on because you’re only sexually turned on by cartoon horses with Z cups and a footlong penis. And she is not a cartoon horse.

Another issue is that the cartoon horse doesn’t actually exist. It exists in the way you want it to. You can daydream it to be and have it do whatever you want; the ungroundedness of it’s existence is what makes it so appealing. It can fill any crack you want it to. But she can’t. She’s a real human person.

Be conscious about where your compound interest train is heading, and what rail you’re chugging down.

Say you feel somewhat anxious about being around people. Then every time you think “Ah, I should go be around people. But I’m so anxious about being around people” you’ll probably feel some anxiety from having the thought of being around people, and push it off more. And the next time you’ll have that thought, you’ll feel more anxious about it. Uh oh. You can see where this is going.

But it’s not all negative. Good relationships are compound interest, too.

When you’re dating someone, the big changes and swooping gestures can bring a lot of joy and happiness and love and everything, and it might stick. But if you only do these big swooping gestures, and sparsely, that is not how you keep a relationship together. What really makes them happy, all the time? What makes the other person feel loved and appreciated and respected and cared for, even when the time you spend together can be seen as mundane?

It’s the little things.

If you live together, and your significant other leaves little sticky notes around the house saying “I love you!” or “You got this!” or other loving messages, you’re gonna feel so happy and loved. If every time after sex, there is adequate aftercare, they will feel loved for and cared for beyond sex, and they will know they are safe around you. If you don’t live together, and you spend ~30 seconds to text a paragraph on how much you love them every night (doesn’t have to be long, just say what you mean and what you wanna say), then they’ll really know. That’s what makes a relationship stick. It’s not the fancy trips to Paris, the extravagant gifts. It’s telling them you love them, meaning it, and showing it, over and over again. It’s compound interest.